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​As with any wedding, flowers help to make the occasion, whether it’s part of the scene or where the flower girl is dropping them in the aisle. However, knowing what flowers to use for your wedding may not be the easiest thing to know. The information below will look into what you should consider before deciding upon what flowers to use in your wedding.
 
You should be deciding with your florist what flowers will work best at your wedding. 
You should give them as much information as possible to help you come upon your best choice.  Describe what the overall theme of your wedding will be. Additionally, describe the outfits you are to wear and provide pictures of the design if possible. If you are going to have flowers on your wedding outfit, make sure that these flowers will last for a while, as well as not be oozing liquid onto your clothes.
You should also take into consideration whether the flowers you have in mind are currently in season or not. Obviously, if they are in season, it will cost less to obtain them than if they are not (provided you can even get them to begin with).  
Also, take into consideration your guests. Do any of them suffer from allergies? If so, having the wrong type of flower as your main floral design is going to cause misery for him/her/them, so try to pick a flower that won’t cause anyone to have a horrible experience at your wedding.
You should consider whether you plan on having the same flowers for your wedding party or if you will have different flowers. Again, you should consider the aforementioned factors of whether they are in season or if anyone is allergic to them before having your wedding party wear them. Of course, those flowers should go well with your flowers when you assemble together at your wedding.
The bouquets should accentuate the wedding couple not detract from them. Thus, they are usually smaller than the main bouquet and can be a variation or contrast. The bouquets can also be used as flower arrangements at the reception, especially at the cake tables.  
Family members’ lapel pins will usually complement the wedding flowers. To really have the family stand out and be recognized, you could have a slight variation that identifies the family members from the other guests.
Keep in mind that table arrangements don’t always need to have the wedding flowers present.  Instead, you could use cheaper options, including ivy. Done in a decorative way, ivy can look just as spectacular for your table centrepieces. Or you could just sprinkle rose petals around the table settings.
As you can see, there are many decisions to make when it comes to your wedding flowers. You have to determine what is in season when your wedding takes place, if there are any attendees who are allergic to specific flowers, and what flowers go well with the dresses.  
By carefully considering the information above and working with your florist, you’ll find the perfect flowers to go well with your wedding theme and not break the bank in the process.
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​To ensure that your wedding day is the best it can be it’s important to ensure that you include all of the important elements in a timely fashion. This means that you need to have at least a basic list and schedule of events, often known as a “wedding ceremony timeline.”  While there is no standard wedding ceremony order, there are elements that need to be present. We will go over what’s needed and optional ones below.
 
First, determine whether you want your attendees to sign the wedding certificate or marriage license. This is not that common anymore, but it is an option to consider, especially if you have a small, more intimate wedding. Consider whether you want literature, love poetry, or religious wedding readings to be read during the early part of the ceremony.
 
The wedding processional is the entrance of a partner, the wedding party, and the second partner. Determine what romantic ceremony music is to be playing, especially when the second partner starts walking in. Do you want to have more of a traditional flavor, such as “Here Comes The Bride,” or do you want more contemporary music such as Natalie & Nat King Coles’ “Unforgettable”?
 
Decide how you will exchange your wedding rings. Will you state standard wedding vows, or will you write and state your own specific vows?  
If you plan on doing your own specific vows, decide on whether you want to go over them together before the big day.  This is especially true if you come from different faiths, as you may want to incorporate different religious references in your vows and want to be sure you are unified in your vows ahead of time.
 
Decide upon how the ceremony will be recognized. Will there be a community commitment to support the marriage or an officiant (priest, rabbi, etc.) present to officially recognize it and bless the marriage? After this recognition and declaration of the marriage, the couple usually seals their first kiss as a married couple. They then leave down the centre aisle. After a period of time, the attendees will leave.
  
There may be pictures taken outside, as the wedding couple will enter a limousine, a horse carriage, or some other form of transportation to be taken to the reception hall where the reception will take place. There may even be a “Just Married” sign on the back of the vehicle.
     
For a wedding to have the special meaning it is intended to, it is important to set up a program of all of the elements that you want included in it and in the proper order. You want to decide upon the opening readings and/or music, as well as the music for the entrance of the wedding party.
 
All of these elements should be considered in order to ensure that your wedding ceremony will be as memorable as it should be for you, your partner and for all who attend.
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While the wedding itself is the most important event of the day, the wedding reception is a close second. This is where you as the new couple, along with all of those who attended the wedding and perhaps a few more guests will go to celebrate the wedding.  
The reception will be less formal and more of a chance to let “your hair hang down,” relax, and have fun. Below, we will explore how to plan the reception so that  a good time Is had by all.
Always keep in mind the reason behind the reception. It’s likely that not everything is going to go according to plan, and that’s okay. Don’t let that ruin your evening. This reception is to be the start of your life journey together in holy matrimony, so don’t let an unforeseen problem put a damper on this evening or on your marriage. You should let any problems that crop up to not ruin the mood and atmosphere of this evening.
Be sure to keep your guests in mind; you want to be confident that they are enjoying themselves as well. Most of your guests will probably have spent a good amount of money and time to be here so you want to make sure that they are finding the atmosphere and event worthwhile. The reception should reflect your personality, including your humor, tastes, and preferences, so as to remind guests what makes you, you.
Decide on a specific style or theme you want your reception to have. This will also help you to determine where you will hold the reception.  
Do you want the reception to be a large gathering or a smaller, more intimate group?
Do you want the reception to be more formal or informal? This also includes whether you want the meal to be more fancy or more casual.  
The theme or style can be based upon your favourite colour(s) or something that is more complex, such as a specific time period that appeals to the two of you, a specific genre of music, or your favourite season.
Be sure to set your budget ahead of time so you can include and eliminate sites right away.  This will help you move closer to your ideal site quicker. Be sure to take into account the money that will be needed for decorations and centrepieces, food and beverages, music, the wedding cake and the site itself.  
Try to narrow down your ideal site to eight to nine sites right away. You can then call each one to see if they have availability on your wedding date. This can help to narrow down the choices even more.  
You can then see if they have all the facilities and room necessary to accommodate your party. Then, you can schedule appointments to visit the venue to get a better idea if this will fit your dream reception or not.  Be sure to have your list of questions handy so that you can truly determine which sites will make the final cut before deciding upon which site will be the one.
Choosing the proper wedding reception venue and having the best theme or style will take some planning ahead of time.  You want to have the right theme or style that reflects your personality.  You also want to be sure that your guests enjoy their time at your reception, as most will spend considerable amounts of time and money to attend.  
By taking these things into consideration, you will determine a venue and theme that will commemorate your relationship and be a fun, memorable time for all who attend.
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Engagement season is at hand … you are going to hear me say that several times over the next few months .
Planning a wedding can feel like an overwhelming task but if you break it down then the parts will be much easier to handle.
 
Set A Timetable 
As soon as you announce yourengagement you will be bombarded with questions about your wedding date. The average engagement can be anywhere from 6 - 18 months. You should try to avoid holidays or major events that may conflict.

Set Your Budget 
Organize with your families to figure out if there will be other contributors other than your partner and yourself. Take into account if their is assistance added then they might have a say as to how the money is spent .

Start A Guest List 
There are many factors in building your guest list . If you have picked your ceremony/reception site you will need to know if your total number of guest can be accommodated.

Insure Your Rings 
There are a few ways to do this :  Either through a company that supplies jewelry insurance or as an extension of your homeowner’s/renters policy 

Choose Your Supporting Cast 
I always refer to the wedding party as the supporting cast. You and your partner are the stars of the show!
The sooner you decide on the wedding party the earlier you can enlist their help.

Think about hiring a Planner/Consultant 
Depending on the size of your wedding and your jobs it may be a good idea to hire some help.  Full-time wedding planner, part-time consultant or day-of-coordinator are all great options depending on how much help you need.

Book Your Venue.
Your reception venue will be canvas for the theme of your wedding and the backdrop for all your pictures . Make sure that your venue falls within the look , price and vision that you have for your reception. Visit as many venues as possible and get all the images that you can.

Interview and Hire Your Vendors 
If you can’t picture getting married without a particular DJ, Venue or Photographer then act quickly. Many of the top vendors might be booked a year or more in advance.

Shop for Your Wedding Outfits 
Dresses and/or suits are an intricate part of a wedding. Go online and through magazines to see various types and styles to find the right look for you and your partner.

Pick Your Theme 
Both of you should be represented in choosing a theme . Size, colour, modern, rustic, vintage are all things that should be considered we putting together a theme.
 
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A perfect wedding isn't only beautiful, it's personal. It has carefully selected details that are meaningful to you and your fiancé.  Here are some very simple ways to add your own subtle, unique touches to your ceremony and reception:

Write your own wedding vows. It doesn't have to read like poetry; the important thing is that it comes from your own heart. Print it out on an index card and keep it handy during the ceremony.
Compile a CD with songs that symbolize your relationship or how it evolved. Play this during your reception or even burn a copy and distribute as souvenirs. Insert a small piece of paper explaining why you chose those songs.

Instead of tossing your bouquet, present it to your mother (or a dear friend or mentor) during your reception. You can also have an additional bouquet made for your partner to also present to someone at the same time.

Compile in a scrapbook. Guests often have free time on their hands during their reception. In the centre of the table, place several pens and small pieces of paper in a pretty basket. Ask them to write their wishes, prayers, or advice for you and your fiancé.

Most wedding reception programs revolve around the couple: friends give speeches. Do something for the guests. Make a video of you and your fiancé talking about the people who've taught you what true love means. Mention friends who've demonstrated real loyalty, or family members who made great sacrifices for you. Intersperse your video with their photos. This is your chance to say thank you to all of them.

If you have a close friend or family member who passed away, make him or her part of the occasion by inserting a small photo in your bouquet, or lighting a tribute candle at the ceremony.

If you have ethnic roots, incorporate a marriage ritual from your culture into your ceremony or perform it during your reception. 

Wear an heirloom. For example, you can use your grandmother ís veil, or wear a locket that belongs to your mother. This is an excellent way of creating a sense of continuity between generations, celebrating your own family even as you go on to begin your own.

Prepare an audio-video presentation that will be played during the parents dances. This can be just a simple montage of childhood photos. A guaranteed tear-jerker! 

If you have kids, help them feel like they're part of the new family by asking them to stand next to you as you say your vows.

Add little elements that say something about your relationship as a couple. For example, if you're giving away picture frames, insert a poem that you wrote or a copy of your wedding vows. If you met at a beach (and would rather not have a beach-themed wedding) incorporate shells into your table centrepiece.

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I had the pleasure of being the DJ/MC of a wedding that included music for the ceremony, cocktails and of course the reception. All the facets were at the same property but in different rooms. When it came time to transition from the cocktail area to the dinner/reception hall I asked the wedding party to get ready for the receiving line. I was met with a dozen blank stares. The what? 

It looks like through my planning and coordinating with the wedding couple no one informed the rest of the wedding party that this was happening. Not only that but most of them were unaware what a receiving line even was. I understand that more weddings are putting tradition aside but I just assumed this was a gimmie. 

There are a few pros and cons of having a receiving line as opposed to the wedding couple doing table visits during the course of the night

Pros 

- It is a great opportunity to greet and thank every guest for coming to your wedding. 
- Tradition dictates that if you are having more than 50 guest that it is warranted.
- You guarantee that every guest will get at least a minute of actual face time with both you and your partner.
- You can have the opportunity to have your photo taken with every couple before they enter the reception hall. 


Cons

- If your guest count is a large one you could have an enormous line throughout your venue. 
- You have to allocate a large amount of time which could in turn delay major aspects of the reception timeline and could hinder the plating and/or preparation of food. 
- They may not be enough room to line up 200 or more  guests at your reception venue.
- Parents , Step-Parents , Grandparents , Wedding Party and Wedding Couple may have issue with being included/not included.
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At the end of the day whatever you and your partner decide just try to keep the above points in mind. 
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Planning a wedding can be a stressful event. The last thing you need is to be ripped-off by an unscrupulous wedding vendor or planner. Here are a few tips to help avoid this problem.

Make Your Wedding Arrangements and Bookings As Far In Advance As Possible

Most facilities, vendors, and planners can be booked more than a year in advance. If possible, take advantage of this window of opportunity. Should something go wrong, it will provide you with more time to make alternate arrangements. Also, be aware that some vendors will actually charge you more if you order or book things at the last minute.

Shop Around and Deal With Trustworthy People

Before booking anything you should shop around and get an idea of current prices for each category of your wedding. Don't just hire the first caterer you meet with. Ask around with family, friends, co-workers, etc. and get their recommendations about services they may have used. If you want to be extra safe in this regard, you could also call your local Better Business Bureau. They can provide you with any problem information they may have received regarding a particular company.

Get Everything in Writing

It would seem obvious to do this, but a lot of couples tend to go on "faith" of what a vendor says, then are shocked with the vendor doesn't follow through. Get everything, down to the smallest detail, in writing and be sure both you and the vendor agree on all points before signing any contract. Include exact descriptions, such as if you are ordering flowers: how may bouquets, the exact type and colour of the flowers, etc.

Be Aware of The Fine Print

Read any contracts over very carefully. Pay particular attention to their cancellation policy. You want to make sure it includes a provision for a refund of the deposit if you cancel or change your wedding date by a certain time period before your wedding. Of course, reasonably, you would not get a deposit back if you cancelled two days before the wedding. Be sure to also include a written statement on the contract that you will not pay for services and will expect a complete refund on any deposits if the company does not deliver exactly as specified in the contract. A reputable company will respect this clause.

Regarding Photographers and DJ's

When booking these services with a company, often you may wish to have a particular photographer/videographer and DJ for your wedding because you have seen their work or heard their play style and really like it. Make sure this is detailed on the contract with the person's name. Again, also include the clause that if that particular person is substituted, you will not pay for the service and will receive a refund on all deposits.


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The flowers, the dress, the suit, the caterer, the guest list. Our focus during engagement is obvious - the ever so important details in planning the perfect wedding. Yet if we can manage to tear ourselves away from the 5th revision of the seating chart for just a moment, we realize that engagement is one of the most significant psychological transitions in our lives, packed with an assortment of tangled emotions and conflicting feelings. Inside the newly engaged couple often lie fear, anxiety, sadness and loss. It is these important internal details, so largely ignored by conventional wedding guides and planners, that an engaged couple must face and confront if they ever hope to arrive at the altar fully prepared to enter into a healthy marriage.

Feelings of loss?
There is no other time in your life when you are truly giving up one identity for another. The transition is more complex than simply taking a new last name, a literal change of identity and a decision that brings with it its own set of questions and anxieties. You are also giving up your symbolic identity as a single person, even a child. Couples often worry, "I'm losing my youth," or, "I won't be able to relate to my single friends." A stage in your life, the only stage you have ever experienced, is ending, and many people experience feelings of loss as a chapter closes on their lives.

What if
As one chapter closes, another begins. A chapter of commitment and togetherness. This new stage brings forth feelings of joy and excitement, but fear and uncertainty are also involved. You are entering into a partnership with another human being, causing your future's happiness to rely so heavily on the actions of another. Needless to say, this realization can expose feelings of fear. What if our marriage doesn't last? What if there is cheating ? What if the passion fades and we grow apart? What if something terrible happens to either of us ? These questions can penetrate the veneer of even the most outwardly joyous couple.

Am I making a mistake?
Popular culture and society seems to conveniently ignore these questions and uncertainties. As engaged person, we hear a barrage of "congratulations!" and "what will your dress/suit look like?" when we announce the big news. Even those closest to us neglect to recognize the importance of more internally probing questions and advice during our engagement. As a result, many people begin to question their readiness for marriage. Any feeling less than euphoric is deemed as indication of making a mistake, as we have been conditioned to believe that anxiety and confusion are a reflection of "not being ready" or choosing the wrong partner. Thus, instead of accepting and discussing these feelings, we distract ourselves with the wedding planning and ignore our internal emotions.

Harness and Accept your feelings!
In reality, these thoughts could not be more normal. In every other major life transition, simultaneous feelings of loss and gain are not only expected, but encouraged. When you graduated high school, when you graduated college, when you moved away from your hometown, when you left your first job for a better opportunity, those around you understood and sympathized with your conflicting emotions. But did those feelings of sadness and loss hinder you from taking that next step and succeeding with flying colours? Of course not. You allowed yourself to address and analyze your thoughts, and then you proceeded with the change. This is exactly what you need to do during your engagement as you prepare for your journey to the altar and marriage. Realize that feelings of sadness and anxiety are normal, allow yourself to feel these feelings, and discuss and analyze them with those around you. Don't allow your friends and family to focus on the wedding planning process to the exclusion of your internal struggles.

The engagement stage involves more than simply planning a big party. It involves introspection and emotional analysis. It involves open communication with your fiancé, family and friends. It involves acceptance of fear and sadness. Once a couple realizes the complexity of this transition, they can address their emotions and move forward in planning for both a fabulous party and a successful next chapter in her life.

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A wedding is one of the most memorable, important, and high points in an individuals life. At a time when two people want to make the ultimate commitment to spend the rest of their lives together, the desire to have personalized vows is certainly understandable. This is one of the most unique and special days in a persons life, so if you want to speak your own personal wedding vows, than by all means, you should go for it! Writing your own vows can be intimidating. Wedding days always add pressure to even the most mundane of tasks, and certainly writing the vows you want to say to your significant other in front of all your friends and family is no small matter! Still, don't let fear cause you to go along with some basic commonly used wedding vows if you really want that personalized touch. Just follow a few basic tips, and this will help you be on your way to writing the tips your future spouse deserves!


 1. Write from the heart. Your wedding day represents the epitome of love between you and your future spouse. The two of you are together for a reason. Anything you write should be honest and from your heart, because that is what will really make your words special.

 2. You don't have to be Robert Frost or Emily Dickinson. If you are a poet, great. Keep in mind, though, that in the end words are just words. Your wedding vows do not have to be an amazing classic piece of literature they need to be an honest display of your feelings for the other person. Don't use long poetical words if all it does is put distance between your words and your feelings.

 3. It ís okay to brainstorm. Before you set down to write everything, make a list of the things about your spouse that you absolutely love about your spouse, then make a list of the commitments you want to make. Figure out what parts of those lists you really want to include (keep in mind the vows are read in front of families and friends) and keep those.

 4. Short and Sweet. It doesn't take many words or a lot of time to make your heart known to everyone present. A lot can be said in a really short time, so don't feel like you have to make the vows any longer than they naturally come out. Follow these four tips, and you'll find yourself getting over your worries to write some great wedding vows that your spouse will love!

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Many people have broken with tradition when it comes to wedding rings these days and often they will only get the one ring that serves both as a wedding and an engagement ring.

This is purely up to the individual and also, as with everything else in the wedding arrangements there is the limiting factor of finances that will determine to some extent what type of ring or rings are purchased.

Depending on the type of ring that you prefer you will usually find that there are vast differences in the prices that the various jewellers will charge so time taken getting prices can save you a lot of money.

Many men don't like to wear rings and this is a personal preference that will need to be discussed between the bride and groom.

There can be many reasons why men don’t like to wear a ring and the upside of that is you can afford to spend more on your own ring.

With men there are often other practical factors that need to be taken into account with their decision whether or not they will wear a ring.

With certain professions it is actually dangerous for the man to wear a ring that could get caught in machinery or similar circumstances.

If you and your partner have differences as to what should be expected with the ring selection then take your time and discuss all aspects of this and treat it as a process of improving your communication skills while allowing each other to enjoy the freedom to still be able to express their own personal preferences even though there is now another person to consider in their life.

The rings are merely a symbol and not as important as the true feelings and the trust that you have for one another.


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You should take your time when deciding on your wedding vows and personalize them to suit you and your partner and not be influenced by what other people expect you to do.

This is one of the most important parts of the wedding because it is after your vows that you will be officially married.

More and more people are becoming very creative with their wedding vows and this adds a personal touch that represents what you and your partner believe your marriage means to the both of you.

It is a chance for you to both express your true thoughts on why you are getting married and what it will mean for you in the future.

Here are the typical wedding vows Ö
 I [your name] take you [your partners name] for my lawful [partner] to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.

Many people use these traditional vows as the foundation that they will modify to suit their needs by adding personalized touches where they like.

Some people find the traditional vows a bit too formal and the wording no longer appropriate to get the true meaning of their care for one another across. If that's the way you feel then changing them is the right solution for you.

These words are more important than all the wedding speeches combined so it is well worth spending as much time as necessary to come up with something that is really special.

Get ideas from the internet , books , poetry and songs. Bounce ideas off one another and you will soon know when you have hit the perfect combination that will lead you into your married life.

Just remember to never stop having fun because that's what it's all about , getting the most happiness in your life by sharing it with someone you love.


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Wedding Dance
Around the globe couples celebrate their unions with a wedding dance of some sort. Most religions, with the exception of those who still frown upon dancing, have some sort of wedding dance that is a part of this joyous event or the celebration of this event. This is much more than a simple dance. It is the dance that will begin your life as a married couple. For this reason alone, many couples spend a great deal of time and effort choosing the perfect song to symbolize their love for each. Once decided, this is the song that is to be played for their wedding dance.

Your wedding dance is one of the few memories of your wedding that you will have forever. Most of your wedding day will go by in such a blur that there will be few moments that stand out above the rest. Your wedding dance however, is the one time during your wedding reception that you and your spouse are truly alone within the crowd. All eyes may be on you both but this is your moment together and no one else in the room should matter at this moment. This is the reason that most people will remember their wedding dance long after they’ve forgotten other details about their wedding. 

Some couples take wedding dance lessons in order to make sure that nothing goes wrong during their wedding dance. Others don't and maybe they should have. Many instructors often suggest that you use the shoes you will be wearing for your wedding as well as a skirt that is very similar to your wedding dress in order to actually get an honest feel for how you will be dancing on your wedding day. It is amazing how much of a difference the height of your shoes and the length of your skirt or train can make when it comes to dancing. These classes are very important for couples that truly want to have the fairy tale wedding experience though not necessarily practical for couples that are already working at the end of their budget constraints.

Ballroom dance lessons will often suffice for wedding dance lessons and in many cases are much less expensive if you can take them at a local community centre rather than taking private lessons. Group lessons are almost always more economical and can be a great way for you and your future spouse to learn to dance together in time for your big night and your wedding dance.

If budgets won’t even allow for this indulgence to make your wedding dance a little easier to handle you can always opt to purchase an instructional video or DVD. It would be great fun to practice your wedding dance together before the big night and it is a great way to have fun together as a couple even after the big night. You can find videos and DVDs that teach all manner of dance steps that you may find appealing. 

Otherwise you can always wing it. Pick a song you love, a dance you like and have fun without worrying about getting it perfect. You are beginning your new life together as a couple and who really needs the pressure of dancing perfect, right? It is also your day and that is one thing that far too few couples really realize when getting caught up in the pressure of creating the perfect wedding within a limited budget. 

The thing to remember when planning your wedding and your wedding dance is that you and your spouse to be are the most important people in the process. Do not allow yourself to feel pressured into something that you don’t want in order to appease others. Make your wedding day and your wedding dance completely your own if you are not interested in or comfortable with the idea of taking lessons from someone else. You and your partner will be glad that you did what was right for you when all is said and done. Just dance like no one is watching. 

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Situation 1. Martha was about to get married. On the wedding day, she, her mother, her bridesmaids and her father’s partner went to the beauty parlour to have their hair done. Upon arrival, they have learned that only one stylist was present.

The situation created a commotion. The father’s partner, being so vain and inconsiderate was the first to manage her hair done. Of course, the mom and the bridesmaids fumed in anger.

Situation 2. Albert was a groom. His father has a current partner. The partner was almost Albert’s age and is obviously just after fun. In short, it was apparent his father’s partner and his dad are just having a fling. Should the partner be invited to the wedding? 

There you go. Wedding situations can sometimes get really petty. If you are a couple's father’s new partner, consider your position. Do not ruin some people’s precious moments. Do not settle to steal wedding thunders. Adopt a mature stance even just for the wedding occasion. 

Dilemmas 

The usual dilemmas couples encounter involving their father’s new partner and their moms will be discussed in this section. 

Let us consider this situation. Dory’s father has a partner. He threatens that he will not attend or show up at the wedding if his new partner is not be invited. In short, the father wants to display his sexual prowess by tagging along his partner in the wedding.

Inviting them both will never be a problem, Dory thought. But the situation got complicated when Dory got to talk to her mother.

Telling the mom of her father’s demand, the mother, of course, got really really angry. There will be no way she can be at the wedding if her father will bring along his new squeeze. The world seems too tight for the three people.

What should Dory do? It is like asking her who she loves more, her father or her mother? 

Adhering to the wedding etiquettes, Dory should not choose one. She should instead strategize to avoid being made to choose. 

As a wedding etiquette, fathers and mothers should be in the wedding. For Dory’s case, she just told her mom and dad that they would not want to ruin the occasion just because of a tiny dispute. It worked.

Of course, the mom, the dad, and his new partner will never get along, but Dory made sure the three will not meet face to face during the occasion. That way, the wedding moved smoothly. No cakes were thrown and no one screamed at each other. 

What if the father’s partner's long-term? 

Couple's father’s partners are not always on the downside. Sometimes there are those who are meant or intended to be long time partners. 

If that is the case, wedding etiquettes have it that the partner be invited to the wedding. Anyways, she will be a part of the family soon so she should start her function early. 

Make sure the ex-wife and the current partner of the couple's father know that each other would attend so both of them will not be surprised. Remember, it is during surprising moments that hot-tempered people act impulsively. 

Short-term or flings

If the father’s partner is apparently just a fling or just a short-term relationship, and if the father’s divorce with the mom is not yet through, explain to the father the situation.

Tell him the sanctity of marriage will be symbolized in the ceremony. Tell him, though it may sound not really nice, that bringing in a date especially since he is not yet totally divorced would degrade the solemnity and sanctity of the sacrament.

Explain that whether you dislike his partner or you do like her, people will still see him married to the mother. So he should spare his partner from embarrassment by not bringing her along. The partner might just feel that she is not invited to the wedding anyways. 


Of course it is very possible that Mom is the one with the new partner and all the points mentioned would adhere to her new partner as well. 

Parents should be more understanding because they are assumed to be more mature and wise. Thus, if you are a wedding couple in those situations, find the strength to deal with the matter with grace and patience. Be diplomatic and talk it out. This will save you your wedding day.

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The engagement party is a time when the families of the couple will get to know one another. In some cases, this might be the first meeting between the two families or groups of friends and any icebreaker activity will be a welcome event.

In that light, whoever plans the engagement party should plan a few games and activities designed to help everyone get to know everyone else.

First up is a trivia game. Create a "Trivial Pursuit" type game with questions about the engaged couple's lives. You might contain the questions to just facts and events relating to both of them (such as how long did it take one to say "yes" when asked, where was the  proposal, where did they meet, etc), or you can include questions pertaining to their lives outside of each other and before they met each other. Not only can this be fun, but also it's an entertaining way for people to get to know each other and the engaged couple better.

One popular icebreaker that's used at corporate functions and company parties can also work really well at engagement parties. Tape a card to each person's back and encourage him or her to work the room, mingle with everyone and particularly try to get to know someone they have never met before. Before moving on to someone else, be sure to make a comment about the person on the card on his or her back. Partiers write an impression of that person, such as "she seems sweet" or "he knows a lot about the weather".


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The number one thing to remember during your bridal trial prep, is that you want to feel comfortable, prepared and have peace of mind so that on your wedding day, you’ll have no mishaps or surprises and you’ll know exactly what to expect from your hair and makeup artist. These ten tips will help you prepare for your bridal trial with your makeup artist and/or hair stylist.

1. Wash your face the night before and remove all traces of makeup. Cleanse and moisturize your face the day of the trial and do not apply any makeup. This give the makeup artist a clean canvas to work on during the trial.

2. Wash you hair and blow-dry it the day before the trial. Make sure the hair is clean and product free and dry when you arrive for your hair trial.

3. Any waxing/threading should be done 2 days prior to the makeup trial (facials/microdermabrasions may need 10-14 days depending on your skin sensitivity) because makeup doesn’t adhere as well to freshly waxed or harshly exfoliated skin.

4. If you have any ideas of the makeup or hair style you want to have on your wedding day, bring photos with you to your trial. That way the artist can get a clear idea of what you’re looking for and make sure that you’re getting the look you want on your special day.

5. Bring a photo of your wedding dress/outfit, bouquet and/or bridesmaid dresses (or a cloth swatch) with you to your trial so that if you want to incorporate any of the wedding colours into your makeup look, the makeup artist can be sure to colour match you for the perfect look.

6. If you’re planning on having a tiara/veil/hair combs/hair crystals/flowers in your hair on the day of the wedding, be sure to bring those items with you so the hair stylist can position your pieces into your hair to see what feels comfortable for you so on the day of the wedding, your hair pieces will be sure to stay comfortably in place.

7. If there are any specialty items you want the makeup artist to use, be sure to bring them with you. Things like bindis/gems or specialty false lashes are things you want to make sure to try out before the wedding day to make sure you get the look just right and you’re comfortable with the look and feel of everything.

8. If you plan to discuss the makeup and hair you want done for your bridesmaids/bridal party on your wedding, bring any additional photos with you to the trial so you can set a aside a few minutes to discuss those details with your makeup/hair artist that way there won’t be any surprises for you on the wedding day with regard to how any of your bridesmaids look. It’s also always a good idea to choose one look for makeup and hair for all the bridesmaids to give your party a more uniformed and classy look.

9. If there’s anything else that you want the makeup/hair artist to know, such as special makeup products that you need to be use or that you will bring for them to use, if you have any skin allergies or makeup sensitivity, etc. please use the opportunity to discuss all of those details with your artist during the trial so that you’ll have no surprises or mishaps on the day of the wedding.


10. Bring your camera! Capture a few shots of yourself so that you can go home and review your look and take a few days to decide which look you liked best. That way you won’t feel rushed on the day of the trial to make a decision plus you get to see how your makeup could photograph so you’ll know exactly what to expect on your wedding day.

This is an add-on depending on your makeup artist, but…

11. Be prepared to sign a contract and leave a retainer for services (typically 25-50%) in order to secure your date. Most artists give you a 24-48 hour grace period to email the contract and wire your retainer after the trial, but if you liked the service and skills, be prepared to book on the spot in cash (many do not accept cheques).

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Planning a wedding and keeping your sanity is not an easy task. Everyone knows that planning a wedding can be an extremely stressful and trying time, especially as the big day approaches.

One of the most important details of the wedding is the actual wedding date. This is usually the detail that is taken care of first. Factors in choosing a date include the availability of the venue where the wedding will take place and availability of friends and family on the assigned date.

It is also advisable to set a budget before you start to make plans. This way you're able to organize the details according to your budget.

Some venues where weddings are held offer discounts on days when traditionally, weddings are not held. Also, the time the wedding takes place also becomes a factor in the expense. For example, mornings and afternoon receptions are usually cheaper than receptions held in the evening.

Venues can offer discounts depending on the time of year. Just after the holidays could be a good time to hold a wedding if you are considering the cost. This time is not considered a 'peak time', therefore the price tends to be less expensive.

It is important to talk to your fiancée about the size of your wedding. Your dream wedding might not be your fiancées. So it ís necessary for you to discuss details such as the location of the venue/reception, the number of people who get invited to the wedding/reception, and the choice of entertainment.

It is important to reach an agreement on the guest list. If you want to keep the wedding an intimate affair, only family and/or friends would be invited. If you wanted to have the wedding of the century, friends and family, long lost relatives, the whole neighbourhood and high school buddies could be invited. When making the guest list, consider the space capacity of your chosen venue.

It ís a good idea to hire a professional to capture this momentous occasion. Sure, your friends can take good pictures and some of them may own a camcorder. But for this special occasion, you would want something special, lasting, and visually presentable. This way you could also share them with your friends and family.

Don't forget the cake! It's a good idea to have a tasting first, before settling on a cake. Invite your family and friends for the cake tasting. This way, this task becomes fun for everyone!

Order wedding invitations. If you want to get creative, you can always print your own. This way, you can customize them, and add a more personal touch to the invitation.

Don't forget to start looking for a wedding gown months before the wedding so the bride has plenty of time to make a selection. Also, you should make arrangements to rent or buy a tuxedo or suit preferably in advance in case there is trouble with the fitting.

Couples who don't have enough time on their hands or just find the preparations that go into planning a wedding too overwhelming can always just hire a wedding planner. This way, everything gets organized and coordinated for them. But if you decide to go the wedding planner route, don't forget to add this cost into your budget.

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If you’re hosting a bridal shower, there are literally hundreds of games to choose from. Some are silly, some are serious, but all are about having some fun with the bride before she’s married. Here’s a sampling.

One fun game really puts the bride on the spot with regard to her knowledge of her husband-to-be’s life. Prior to the party, have someone ask the groom a series of questions, such as where he was born, what his favorite food is, things like that. Then at the bridal shower, put the bride on the spot by asking her the answers to the questions. See how many she can get right (hopefully at least half!). If she does well, give the girl a prize; she deserves one.

One all-time favorite game is toilet paper wedding dresses. This game involves separating the guests into teams consisting of at least 2 people and no more than 5. Give each team a roll or toilet paper (or 2) and have them fashion a wedding dress out of the toilet paper. One of the team members will volunteer as the model. Provide them with a “dress up trunk” filled with jewelry and shoes. They must make the dress out of the toilet paper, but they can accessorize with the provided jewelry, shoes, gloves and hats. Place a time limit on this (5 minutes is adequate) and have the bride vote on the best dress. Be sure to provide prizes for the winning team!

Another fun game that’s always a hit is making the bride get dressed while blindfolded. Tell the bride she is to pretend she’s on her honeymoon and the power has gone off. She must prepare for her wedding night in complete darkness. Provide her with a suitcase filled with items and then blindfold her. She must get dressed in a certain period of time (2 minutes is adequate) while completely blindfolded and with no help from the guests. Include some silly items like oversized sunglasses, garden gloves or a flannel nightgown just to make it fun. This is a photo opportunity, so be sure someone is waiting to record the end result!

Another fun game puts the shower guests more on the sport than the bride. In this game, everyone puts their purses in the center of the room. Create a list of items commonly found in a purse and assign a point value and create a list of less common items and give them a higher point value. So you might give lipstick 2 points, a tampon 3 points, and sunglasses 5 points. But a granola bar could be 10 points and a staple remover, 15 points. Then go through the purses awarding points and give the person with the highest number of points (and therefore, the most items and probably highest number of unusual items) a prize.

Before the shower, create bingo cards for this shower bingo game. In the squares, put pictures of items you think the bride will receive at the shower. So, boxes might include things like lingerie, towels and the like. As the bride opens gifts, have people mark off that item on their bingo card. If nobody gets a “bingo” give a prize to the person who marked off the most number of items.

This next game is a derivation of a popular game that’s often played at bachelorette parties and involves a stripper. This is the clean version. About 30 minutes into the party, have the bride leave the room and pass out pieces of paper. Have everyone write on the paper everything they can remember about the bride’s outfit, hair, etc. How many rings is she wearing? What color is her blouse? Is she wearing open or closed toed shoes? Once everyone is done recording their observations, the bride comes back into the room and a prize is awarded to the person with the best observation skills.

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When a couple orders the wedding bouquet, it might not seem that any “activities” will come from it other than as a thing to hold but the bouquet can be the source of many interesting activities and meaningful gestures.
During there ceremony there are all kinds of possibilities. You cold go traditional and have a flower for both the mothers .The moms, in particular, love this activity and guests usually appreciate it as well. What if you turned that traditional gesture on its head and supplied flowers for both the mothers and the fathers? If the couple supplies flowers to both the men and women, there are a couple of ways to do this. What if dad’s flower was enclosed in a verse that he will then get up and read at the ceremony? What if it was a flower to recognize the members of the family who have passed, and it gives dad an opportunity to recognize those family members?

If the couple chooses not to have a unity candle, but wants some gesture like it, they can have a bouquet designed by having several small bouquets put together. At an appropriate time during the ceremony, the wedding bouquet is “broken up” and various people might receive a share, such as the mothers and fathers of the couple.

Now, if the couple wants to hang onto the wedding bouquet during the wedding ceremony, but is willing to have some fun with it at the reception, there are a few options there as well. How about a dance involving the wedding bouquet? This is silly, but fun. The wedding bouquet is on display somewhere near the dance floor and guests must guess a flower that’s in the bouquet before they can enter the dance floor. The first few guests might not have a problem as some flowers are obvious, like roses and tulips, but others might give people pause. Of course, this won’t work if the bridal bouquet is all roses or some other single and obvious flower but for a traditional mixed bouquet, it can work well.For a naughty touch, the couple can hide a garter in the wedding bouquet and actually put it on before it gets taken off. Or there can have a couple of breakaway bouquets that are wrapped in garter belts, so the main one doesn’t get thrown, but instead the tiny bouquets with garter belts attached are thrown.
When it comes time to throw her bouquet, there are several options. Some couples choose not to keep their bouquet and simply pluck one flower out of it before chucking the whole thing during the bouquet toss. This is an alternative to having a special bouquet set aside for throwing, and there are others as well.Are there are a lot of single women coming to the wedding? Maybe one thrown bouquet won’t be enough. Many couples these days are opting for something a little more fun.There are a few options, really. One popular option is to have the florist create several small bouquets and then bundle them to look like one bouquet. They are tied lightly with a ribbon. When it comes time for the bouquet toss, untie the ribbon, and throw the “bouquet” which is actually several little bouquets. Several people  will catch the bouquet, rather than just one.

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Whether it’s a traditional, formal or off-the-beaten-track wedding, you’re putting the whole event together yourself by planning its every phase. These days, with so much available on the Internet, it’s easy! All you need is some time and a clear idea of the feeling you want to get across.

Start with a theme and you’ll have a coherent image you can use throughout the entire wedding. You may be surprised, in fact, how potent just a word or concept can be, once applied as your marriage theme.

Love angels, for example? What could be more perfect than finding ways to incorporate angels in every phase of your wedding?

From the flowers to the guest favours to the vows, you can find a way to carry out the theme through the entire event. Is it to be a casual wedding of two Renaissance types? The Renaissance theme is compatible with the wedding ritual, and makes for an unforgettable event.

Getting married on February the fourteenth? Hearts and flowers are perhaps the most traditional and best beloved of all wedding themes!

When you’re planning your wedding, save time to choose the music with care. Get together with whoever is providing the music and talk about the right pieces for the two of you. There is nothing that sets the tone like music, and your wedding music will live in your memories for the rest of your lives.

The rings, the vows, the wardrobe all the choices you must make to create an intimately personal expression of your love, are made so much easier by following a theme. But the idea behind it all is what counts.

You can choose one word to describe the spirit you wish to be your wedding, as if the coming together of two hearts creates a separate entity with one quality.

Is it joy? Is it contentment? Is it a giddy, bubbly, mirthful adoration? Pick a word or a phrase and keep it in mind. It’ll tie everything together and make the experience more perfect. And your wedding theme can become a foundation throughout your marriage.

For your wedding.

For each other.

For your life.

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