Deciding who should be in your wedding party is not the easiest choice to make. Chances are you likely have many people who would love to be in it, but there can be only one Maid of Honour and just a handful of bridesmaids.
Likewise, there can only be one Best Man and a few groomsmen, so there are only a handful of spots available. Odds are that you have more than that number of friends, even close friends. The information below should help you to choose the best people possible to include in your wedding party.
When choosing your Maid of Honour, a sister is traditionally the first choice. If you do not have a sister or have a sister you are close to, your very best friend is the next best option. Consider the person who has always stood by you, even in the toughest of times, and has told you things you didn’t want to hear, even when it was good for you to hear them. This is the person who would probably best fit the role of your Maid of Honour.
Also consider that the person is responsible, as she/he will plan the bridal shower and the bachelorette party. In addition, she/he will be in charge of keeping the bridesmaids’ fittings in good running order, as well as any other tasks that the wedding couple has designated. The Maid of Honour may also be asked to give a toast at the reception.
The Best Man traditionally is a brother of the groom, unless you or your partner don’t have a brother or a brother you are close to. In that case, it should be a best friend who is responsible (i.e. he shouldn’t drink too much). In some parts of North America, it is customary to choose a father to be Best Man. No matter who is chosen, it is best if the Best Man gets along well with your partner.
The Best Man is expected to organize all bachelor events and provide support in whatever way is needed. This includes keeping track of the wedding rings, especially if a young ring bearer is involved. The Best Man also is expected to make a toast at the reception.
Bridesmaids might be those who have a close relationship with either partner .These could include sisters, close cousins, and close friends. Including your fiancé's sister or sisters should also be considered but is not mandatory.
These women will participate in all pre-wedding events, run errands, attend any tasting and site visits, and stay until the end of the reception. If they are not available for every party, that’s acceptable, though they must send gifts for the bridal shower.
Groomsmen should be brothers, close cousins and close friends of either partner. These men should help to seat guests, help the Best Man throw the bachelor party and dance with the bridesmaids.
You should also carefully consider who the Flower Girl and Ring Bearer would be. The Flower Girl should likely be a cousin, a niece, a godchild, or a stepchild who is between the ages of three to six years old. This is not the same as junior bridesmaids, who are older and wear tween versions of the bridesmaids’ dresses.
The Ring Bearer should be a young boy who can handle the responsibility of taking care of the rings (with help from an adult. The Ring Bearer should walk down the aisle with the Flower Girl.
Carefully considering who should be in your wedding party will help to ensure that the day is a memorable one for you and all involved. The people involved should be people who you are close to, who can perform the expected responsibilities and who should be able to get along with the others in the wedding party. By carefully considering the people you are close to, choosing an appropriate wedding party shouldn’t be too difficult or stressful.
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