I have been blessed to have been a Best Man twice so far. They were about fifteen years apart and I admit freely that the first time I really sucked ( Sorry Michelle & Jeremy ) .
The second time however I was determined to do the job fully and to the best of my ability. The way I made sure that I took care of my Best Man duties was to research and compile the following list .
You don’t really have to do any wedding planning but you should offer to help with anything that might be needed. Step in where you can lessen the weight of everything that is being put together.
Organize A Party
I guess this should really start with “ASK , if a party is desired”. This could be an Engagement Party , Jack and Jill , Buck and Doe or any other Pre-wedding event. Of course all the planning is not yours alone. Delegate essential tasks to the other members of the wedding in party.
Make sure that the members of the Wedding Party have their wedding attire fitted. Let the Ushers know what their jobs are and where they will be standing.
When the big day arrives is when your main job starts :
- Organize and distribute final payment to vendors.
- Make sure all paper work is brought to the ceremony to be signed and witnessed.
- On wedding day you are most likely in charge of the safe keeping of the Wedding Rings.
Present The Rings
Present The Rings at the appropriate time during the ceremony. You may have to present the rings to the officiant or even to the couple . That aspect should be sorted out during the Wedding Rehearsal.
Make sure there are no last minute tasks left undone
Be at the reception early to finalize last minute tasks, greet the guest and get the Wedding Party ready for the Grand Entrance.
Most people are not fans of public speaking but this is the spot where the Best Man can shine. If toasts are not scheduled then this is a great time to step up and propose the first toast. An organized and witty Best Man Speech will help make your contributions memorable.
Your job is to help by being a contributing member of the events . Yes that will include dancing . It will also include attending to the wedding couple’s needs this will free them up to enjoy their reception.
After the reception
The wedding day is over but the Best Man should make sure that all rentals are returned
( tuxedos , decor , equipment etc )
This list isn’t the be all but it has helped me to be a contributing member of the wedding party as opposed to just a fixture at the head table.Can you think of other things not mentioned that should be taken care of by the best man?
I would love to hear your thoughts
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Neal McFarlane is a full-time Toronto Wedding DJ ,VJ and MC who enjoys sharing his decades of knowledge to elevate every single event he can.